On Aug 9, “”J.C.” Asked Brett:
” I have a dilemma. My future sister in-law decided to have a wedding 4 months after announcing it. I can’t get time off of work. What’s best way to break the news to the family?”
First and foremost, my opinion of what you should do in this situation will depend greatly on your answer to following question. Is this wedding a destination wedding in the Caribbean, at an all inclusive resort, paid for by the bride’s dad? If the answer to this question is “yes”, then I would say it may be worth trying to find another job upon your return. If the answer is “no”, I have a few suggested techniques to solve your problem:
1. Compromise: Present the bride with the option of holding her wedding at your place of employment instead of her current venue. This will allow you to attend work AND the wedding. Everyone wins. Strengthen your argument by telling her that any venue she has found with availability within four months is probably crap anyway.
2. Guilt/Victimization: Tell the bride/your family that you have tried to get out of work, but you were told you would be fired if you took the time off. If this is not enough, show them a picture of fuzzy puppies and tell them that your boss has threatened to harm the fuzzy puppies if you take the time off.
*Disclaimer – If this does not work, please do not actually harm the puppies.
3. Technology: With today’s technology, there is no reason you can not attend work AND the wedding. Simply Skype yourself into the wedding ceremony from work. You’ll probably want to request that the receiving computer be set up on a stool right next to the minister, so that you don’t miss anything. Also, you may want to bring your own booze to work, so you can still have a good time at the reception.
I hope some of these suggestions work for you. I don’t know how they couldn’t. You’ll have to keep us all informed of how it goes. Especially, if the bride goes all “bridezilla” on you.
Thank you for you question!